Being A Nobody

One of my favorite Spiritual leader.. and so inspiring.


Vien
who is not afraid to be nobody







Being A Nobody by Osho

"Everybody is afraid of being nobody. Only very rare and extraordinary people are not afraid of being nobody. A Gautam Buddha is needed to be a nobody. A nobody is not an ordinary phenomenon; it is one of the greatest experiences in life – that you are and still you are not, that you are just pure existence with no name, with no address, with no boundaries…neither a sinner nor a saint, neither inferior nor superior, just a silence.

People are afraid because their whole personality will be gone; their name, their fame, their respectability, all will be gone; hence, the fear. But death is going to take them away from you anyway. Those who are wise allow these things to drop by themselves. Then nothing is left for death to take away. Then all fear disappears, because death cannot come to you; you don’t have anything for death.

Death cannot kill a nobody. Once you feel your nobodiness you have become immortal. The experience of nobodiness is exactly the meaning of nirvana, of nothingness, of absolute undisturbed silence, with no ego, with no personality, with no hypocrisy – just this silence…and these insects singing in the night.

You are here in a way, and still you are not. You are here because the old association with the body. But look within, and you are not. And this insight, where there is pure silence and pure isness, is your reality which death cannot destroy. This is your eternity, this is your immortality. Enjoy as much as you can moments of nobodiness. And it is such a simple, uncomplicated experience – because you are nobody; you have just to sink within yourself a little deeper. Your personality is only on the surface. Inside is only a vast sky – infinite.

Selamat Ulang Tahun Teman.

Bulan September dan Ulang tahun ke 2 Herlounge, Herlounge sudah seperti sebuah keluarga untuk saya. Jujur saya tidak mempunyai latar belakang tentang hal tulis menulis, apalagi menulis sebuah artikel. Saya hanya seorang pujangga kata kata dengan sebuah kertas dan crayon. Dan di Herlounge lah saya banyak belajar mengenai segala sesuatu tentang kehidupan. Terima kasih saya yang mendalam untuk Momow dan Cha Cha yang memberikan saya sebuah “ruang” untuk berekspresi dan senantiasa mendukung saya dalam melewati sebuah proses.

Dan dalam kesempatan ini pula, saya ingin berterima kasih untuk para Herlounge follower karena sudah mau meluangkan waktu untuk membaca, maaf jika kadang pemikiran saya agak agak norak dan lebay, tapi semua adalah tulus dan jujur.

Ini hanya : Karena kalian adalah Teman saya..

Dalam tulisan terdahulu dengan judul “Pelacur”, saya salut sama keberanian nya.. tapi saya juga sedih.. bukan sedih karena dia memutuskan menjadi Pelacur ( bagian ini saya bangga, karena dia tahu apa yang harus dia lakukan, sementara banyak orang yang sok suci bahkan tidak tahu apa yang harus mereka lakukan dalam menjalani dan bertahan dalam kehidupan )! Saya sedih, karena saya melihat seorang gadis muda cantik, pemberani, tapi tidak mempunyai rasa “ AMAN “, rasa aman bahkan sewaktu duduk berhadapan dengan saya, secara saya ini bukan siapa siapa… Dan ini amat sangat mengusik pikiran saya, hingga sampai pada pertanyaan, “Teman seperti apa yang ada di sekitar dia ?” siapa teman dia? Bagaimana bentuk petemanan mereka? Sampai seorang gadis muda yang cantik dan pemberani bisa mempunyai sebuah rasa tidak “AMAN”?

Post Power Syndrome (PPS)

Pernah tidak punya seorang mantan pacar yang sms kamu dengan bertubi-tubi, marah saat sms tidak dibalas dan mengungkit ungkit masa lalu sewaktu masih in relationship, dan menyiksa kamu secara mental agar mengingat masa lalu yang indah? Jasa-jasa yang telah diberikan? Kehebatan sendiri dibandingkan dengan pacar kamu yang sekarang?

Itulah yang disebut sebagai Post Power Syndrome, terjemahan kerennya sih: keadaan di mana seseorang begitu terjebak pada bayang-bayang kebesaran masa lalunya (kecerdasannya, kecantikannya, keahliannya, kehebatannya, dll). Begitu bangga pada semua jernih payah kerja kerasnya seakan-akan tidak bisa memandang realita yang ada pada saat ini.

Pilih Mudah atau Sulit?

Beberapa hari yang lalu teman saya dengan sangat sukses mengatakan “Elu itu ga ada apa apanya! Siapa elu?” dan ya… secara saya aja dikatakan “Anjing” saja bisa santai.. apa lagi ini, secara saya memang bukan apa apa, toh kenapa juga mesti takut untuk tidak menjadi apa apa.

Dan jika di pikir pikir, dia memang berhak berkata seperti itu (dengan sangat legowo saya mengakui), di mana saya harus bersusah susah payah untuk menghasilkan sesuatu, dia dengan sangat gampang tinggal buka suara saja bisa mewujudkan apa yang dengan bungkuk bungkuk saya coba wujudkan.

Tapi ada statement baru yang di sampaikan, entah karena rasa bersalah atau tetap karena sombong, atau mungkin rasa bersalah yang arogan hahahahahahaha. Statement nya adalah
“Kenapa sih elu mesti mempersulit yang mudah? Jangan mempersulit yang mudah”. Disinilah saya merasa harus “tidak santai”.

Bagi saya menjalani hidup itu bukan memilih untuk sulit atau mudah, kalau itu mah semua pasti milih nya mudah bukan? Hayoooo ngaku…. ^^ Tapi kawan… hidup ini adalah apa kita SUDAH menjalani apa yang kita harus jalani. Mungkin kalian bertanya “Kalau bisa dengan mudah menjalani apa yang harus dijalani kenapa mesti repot? “. Wahhhhh pemikiran ini yang bikin repottttt tujuh putaran jalur busway. Ibarat nya kalau ada ulangan di sekolah kenapa mesti repot repot belajar kalau bisa gampang menyontek. Atau sekalian aja.. kenapa mesti repot repot sekolah kalau bisa beli ijasah!

If You Don't Love Yourself, Who Else Is Going To Love You?

you ask: "Why don't I trust you?"

It is simple: you don't trust yourself. START TRUSTING YOURSELF -- that is the fundamental lesson, the first lesson. START LOVING YOURSELF. If you don't love yourself, who else is going to love you? But remember, if you ONLY love yourself, your love will be very poor.

"If you are not for yourself, who will be?" And also, "If you are only for yourself, then what meaning your life can ever have?" A tremendously significant statement -- remember it! LOVE YOURSELF BECAUSE IF YOU DON'T LOVE YOURSELF, NOBODY ELSE WILL EVER BE ABLE TO LOVE YOU.

You cannot love a person who hates herself. AND, ON THIS UNFORTUNATE EARTH, ALMOST EVERYBODY HATES HERSELF, everybody condemns herself. How can you love a person who is condemnatory towards herself?

SHE WILL NOT BELIEVE YOU. She cannot love herself, how you dare? She cannot love herself, how you can love her? She will suspect some game, some trick, some trip. She will suspect that you must be after something else. She will suspect that you are trying to deceive her in the name of love. She will be very cautious, alert. AND HER SUSPICION WILL POISON YOUR BEING.

AND IF YOU LOVE A PERSON WHO HATES HERSELF, YOU ARE TRYING TO DESTROY HER CONCEPT ABOUT HERSELF. And nobody easily drops her concept about herself. That is her identity. She will fight with you, she will prove to you that she is right and you are wrong.

THAT'S WHAT IS HAPPENING IN EVERY LOVE RELATIONSHIP -- in every so-called "love relationship" . It is happening between every lover and beloved, every man and every woman. HOW CAN YOU DESTROY THE OTHER'S CONCEPT ABOUT HERSELF? That is her identity, that is her ego, that's how she knows herself. If you take it away, she will not know who she is. It is too risky. She cannot drop her concept so easily. SHE WILL PROVE TO YOU THAT SHE'S NOT WORTH LOVING, SHE'S ONLY WORTH HATING.

And the same is the case with you: YOU ALSO HATE YOURSELF, YOU CANNOT ALLOW ANYBODY ELSE TO LOVE YOU. Whenever somebody comes with loving energy around you, you shrink, you want to escape. You are afraid. You know perfectly well that you are unworthy of love. You know that only on the surface you look so good, so beautiful -- deep down you are ugly.

And if you allow this person to love you, sooner or later -- and it is going to be sooner than later -- SHE WILL COME TO KNOW WHO YOU ARE IN REALITY. How long you will be able to pretend with a person with whom you have to live and love?

YOU CAN PRETEND IN THE MARKETPLACE, -- you can pretend: smiles, all smiles. You can have a beautiful acting, roll-playing. BUT IF YOU LIVE WITH SOMEONE FOR TWENTY-FOUR HOURS, then it is tiring to go on smiling and smiling and smiling. Then the smile tires -- because it is phony. It is just an exercise of the lips. And the lips become tired. How can you go on being sweet? YOUR BITTERNESS WILL SURFACE.

HENCE, BY THE TIME THE HONEYMOON IS OVER, EVERYTHING IS OVER. Both have known each other's reality. Both have known each other's phoniness. Both have known each other's falsity. One is afraid to become intimate. TO BE INTIMATE MEANS YOU WILL HAVE TO PUT ASIDE THE ROLL. And you know who you are -- worthless, just dirt.

Vien

* It's Start from you ! *

Perang yang terdahsyat

Perang, dari jaman kuda gigit besi, sudah jadi kebudayaan dunia. Walaupun mungkin banyak di antara kita yang tidak pernah mengalaminya, tetapi kita pernah tau dan mendengar cerita dan kisah perang Bharata Yudha, perang kemerdekaan, perang salib, perang sabil, perang bintang sampai perang dingin – sesuatu yang sama sekali tidak ada hubungannya sama es atau kulkas.

Perang timbul karena tidak adanya kesepakatan untuk berkompromi. Dalam sebuah peperangan diperlukan konflik dan keegoisan dari orang-orang yang terlibat di dalamnya. Konflik yang tidak selesai, apalagi ditambah dengan provokasi yang berlebihan akan terus memicu peperangan. Diperlukan kesadaran tinggi dari semua pihak dalam bersepakat untuk menuntaskan sebuah peperangan, tapi kadang kala perang tidak akan selesai jika salah satu dari pihak yang terlibat tidak mengaku kalah.

Pada skala terkecil, setiap manusia pasti pernah juga mengalami perang yang terjadi di sekitarnya. Entah itu berperang menghadapi permasalahan hidup ataupun sekedar perang urat syaraf di tempat kerja bahkan perang dingin dengan partner tercinta. Pada dasarnya, di dalam setiap diri manusia ada komponen ’samurai’ di dalam dirinya (ingat Musashi?), yang membuatnya beranggapan bahwa kita harus bersiap siaga dalam segala keadaan agar bisa menghadapi setiap kemungkinan yang datang. Istilah bersiap siaga itulah salah satu terminologi yang sering dipakai dalam persiapan peperangan. Ini masalah menang atau kalah. Kita memang harus bersiap siaga karena hanya ada dua kemungkinan yang terjadi kita tertebas atau kita menebas, analogi dari menang atau kalah tersebut di atas. Kita tertebas oleh permasalahan yang kita hadapi atau kita menebasnya terlebih dahulu. Kita bisa menaklukkan kesulitan yang kita alami atau kesulitan yang akan membuat kita takluk menyerah tidak berdaya.

Tidak banyak orang yang menyadari bahwa peperangan yang terdahsyat di sepanjang hidup manusia adalah peperangan di dalam dirinya sendiri. Perang melawan musuh terbesarnya, yaitu dirinya sendiri. Perjalanan dan peperangan yang tersulit dan terpanjang yang dilakukan oleh manusia adalah perjalanan mencari solusi antara nurani dan akal pikirannya.

Berperang melawan diri sendiri adalah pertandingan dahsyat untuk mengalahkan semua rasa ketakutan, keenganan, keangkuhan, kesombongan, iri hati dan dengki serta semua rasa negatif yang menghambat kemajuan diri. Keberhasilan mengalahkan diri sendiri adalah buah dari pergumulan atas semua kegamangan dan ketidak-pastian dengan keinginan diri. Keberhasilan mengalahkan diri sendiri tidak bisa tidak harus membuat manusia jujur terhadap niat dan nuraninya, dan memelihara atau menjaga agar nurani dan niatnya tidak tercemar – tidak ternoda. Ia bertanding dan melawan dirinya sendiri jadi ia tidak bisa tidak harus bermain jujur, tidak bisa curang. Ia tidak perlu bermain curang karena kecurangan itu adalah usaha menipu dirinya sendiri. Jika ia menipu dirinya sendiri maka ia tidak bisa menerima diri pribadinya sendiri secara apa adanya. Dan karena tidak bisa menerima diri sendiri apa adanya maka ia tidak bisa menang melawan diri sendiri.

The More You Trust Yourself, The More You BLOOM

ONCE YOU ARE INCAPABLE OF LOVING YOURSELF, YOU WILL NEVER BE ABLE TO LOVE ANYBODY. That is an absolute truth, there are no exceptions to it. You can love others only if you are able to love yourself.

BUT THE SOCIETY CONDEMNS SELF-LOVE. It says it is selfishness. It says it is narcissistic. Yes, self-love can become narcissistic, but it is not necessarily so. It can become narcissistic if it never moves beyond itself. It can become a kind of selfishness if it becomes confined to yourself. Otherwise, SELF-LOVE IS THE BEGINNING OF ALL OTHER LOVES.

A person who loves herself sooner or later starts overflowing with love. A PERSON WHO TRUSTS HERSELF CANNOT DISTRUST ANYBODY -- even those who are going to deceive her, even those who have already deceived her. Yes, she cannot even distrust them -- because now she knows trust is far more valuable than anything else.

YOU CAN CHEAT A PERSON -- BUT IN WHAT CAN YOU CHEAT HER? You can take some money or something else from her. But a person who knows the beauty of trust will not be distracted by these small things. She will still love you, she will still trust you. And then a miracle happens: IF A PERSON REALLY TRUSTS YOU, IT IS IMPOSSIBLE TO CHEAT HER, ALMOST IMPOSSIBLE.

It happens every day in your life, too. WHENEVER YOU TRUST SOMEBODY, IT BECOMES IMPOSSIBLE FOR THEM TO CHEAT YOU, TO DECEIVE YOU. Sitting on the platform in a railway station, and you don't know the person who is sitting by your side -- a stranger, a complete stranger -- and you say to hER, "Just watch my luggage, I have to go to purchase a ticket. Please, you just take care of the luggage." And you go. You trusted an absolute stranger. But it almost never happens that the stranger deceives you. She could have deceived you, if you had not trusted her.

Trust has a magic in it. HOW CAN SHE DECEIVE YOU NOW THAT YOU HAVE TRUSTED HER? How can she fall so low? She will never be able to forgive herself if she deceives you.

THERE IS AN INTRINSIC QUALITY IN HUMAN CONSCIOUSNESS TO TRUST AND TO BE TRUSTED. And everybody enjoys being trusted, it is respect from the other person -- and when you trust a stranger it is more so. There is no reason to trust her, and still you trusted her. You raised the person to such a high pedestal, you valued the person so much, it is almost impossible for her to fall from that height. And if she falls, she will never be able to forgive herself -- she will have to carry the weight of guilt her whole life.

A PERSON WHO TRUSTS HERSELF COMES TO KNOW THE BEAUTY OF IT -- comes to know that the more you trust yourself, the more you bloom. The more you are in a state of let-go, relaxation -- the more you are settled and serene, the more you are calm, cool and quiet.

AND IT IS SO BEAUTIFUL THAT YOU START TRUSTING MORE AND MORE PEOPLE -- because the more you trust, the more your calmness deepens, your coolness goes deeper and deeper to the very core of your being. And the more you trust, the more you soar high. A PERSON WHO CAN TRUST WILL SOONER OR LATER KNOW THE LOGIC OF TRUST. And then one day she is bound to try to trust the unknown.

* It's all start from Yourself.. *