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Profesi di atas sama sekali tidak pernah terlintas menjadi hal yang perlu aku pikirkan selama ini. Tapi, tiba-tiba, ketika harus berhadapan dengan mereka dan duduk di satu meja yang sama, otak sayapun mulai bergolak.

Menurut saya, mereka adalah golongan wanita yang berani. Bagaimana tidak, … disaat kaum wanita yang lain harus mikir 1000 kali untuk ditiduri oleh orang lain, mereka berani menghabiskan malam-malam mereka dengan orang yang baru dikenalnya. Belum lagi jika ada pelanggan yang permintaannya aneh-aneh, mau yang posisi ajaib, mau yang pakai acara sadisme pukul memukul, nggak mau pakai kondom, dan lain sebagainya. Terlepas dari alasan mereka untuk melakukan hal tersebut karena butuh uang atau sekedar cari hiburan, kaum pelacur perlu diacungi topi, karena keberaniannya. Terlepas dari semua alasan di atas dan apakah mereka mendapat kepuasan dari melakukan pekerjaan itu, apakah mereka berpura-pura dalam melakukan pengekspresian gairahnya, atau apakah mereka melibatkan emosi dan perasaan mereka dalam melaksanakan kewajibannya, - semua itu hanya individu tersebut yang mengetahuinya – mereka memang punya nyali untuk mau ditiduri oleh klien yang berminat padanya.

Begitu banyak sisi yang bisa dikupas dari pekerjaan dan individu ini. Begitu banyak hal yang menarik yang bisa disimak, tetapi jarang ada orang yang berani untuk mengakui sisi keberanian seorang pelacur. Berani dalam arti mau menjalani hal yang tidak pernah dilakukan oleh banyak perempuan lain. Berani dalam arti mau melangkah dan menempuh semua sisi gelap pekerjaannya demi untuk mendapatkan apa yang menjadi tujuannya.

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Week 4 - Sexuality Curiosity: can lesbian relationship saved the disappointments of men?

Minggu ini Vien dan Momo bertukar hari tayang karena kebetulan Vien harus mengurus sesuatu hal sepanjang minggu ini, jadi daripada nanti ngga sempet bikin video buat kalian mending ditukar jadwalnya so kalian bisa tetep menikmati semua videonya.

This week we're discussing about Sexuality Curiosity based on a friend's situation regarding her disappointments to men and now she wanted to try exploring her feelings to women.

Questions of the week:

1. Dengan alasan kecewa sama cowo dan kepingin nyoba sama cewe apakah sebaiknya di encourage untuk eksplorasi feelingnya/ngga?
2. Selama ini perempuan yang memutuskan jadi lesbian karena alesan dikecewain sama cowo kisah selanjutnya gimana?
3. Apakah hubungan lesbian bakal lebih baik dari hetero?
4. Let say si X pingin tetep ngejalanin jd lesbian/bisexual, apa yang harus dia lakuin to find her first date? And of course hopefully finding a good one..
   

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If You Don't Love Yourself, Who Else Is Going To Love You?

you ask: "Why don't I trust you?"

It is simple: you don't trust yourself. START TRUSTING YOURSELF -- that is the fundamental lesson, the first lesson. START LOVING YOURSELF. If you don't love yourself, who else is going to love you? But remember, if you ONLY love yourself, your love will be very poor.

"If you are not for yourself, who will be?" And also, "If you are only for yourself, then what meaning your life can ever have?" A tremendously significant statement -- remember it! LOVE YOURSELF BECAUSE IF YOU DON'T LOVE YOURSELF, NOBODY ELSE WILL EVER BE ABLE TO LOVE YOU.

You cannot love a person who hates herself. AND, ON THIS UNFORTUNATE EARTH, ALMOST EVERYBODY HATES HERSELF, everybody condemns herself. How can you love a person who is condemnatory towards herself?

SHE WILL NOT BELIEVE YOU. She cannot love herself, how you dare? She cannot love herself, how you can love her? She will suspect some game, some trick, some trip. She will suspect that you must be after something else. She will suspect that you are trying to deceive her in the name of love. She will be very cautious, alert. AND HER SUSPICION WILL POISON YOUR BEING.

AND IF YOU LOVE A PERSON WHO HATES HERSELF, YOU ARE TRYING TO DESTROY HER CONCEPT ABOUT HERSELF. And nobody easily drops her concept about herself. That is her identity. She will fight with you, she will prove to you that she is right and you are wrong.

THAT'S WHAT IS HAPPENING IN EVERY LOVE RELATIONSHIP -- in every so-called "love relationship" . It is happening between every lover and beloved, every man and every woman. HOW CAN YOU DESTROY THE OTHER'S CONCEPT ABOUT HERSELF? That is her identity, that is her ego, that's how she knows herself. If you take it away, she will not know who she is. It is too risky. She cannot drop her concept so easily. SHE WILL PROVE TO YOU THAT SHE'S NOT WORTH LOVING, SHE'S ONLY WORTH HATING.

And the same is the case with you: YOU ALSO HATE YOURSELF, YOU CANNOT ALLOW ANYBODY ELSE TO LOVE YOU. Whenever somebody comes with loving energy around you, you shrink, you want to escape. You are afraid. You know perfectly well that you are unworthy of love. You know that only on the surface you look so good, so beautiful -- deep down you are ugly.

And if you allow this person to love you, sooner or later -- and it is going to be sooner than later -- SHE WILL COME TO KNOW WHO YOU ARE IN REALITY. How long you will be able to pretend with a person with whom you have to live and love?

YOU CAN PRETEND IN THE MARKETPLACE, -- you can pretend: smiles, all smiles. You can have a beautiful acting, roll-playing. BUT IF YOU LIVE WITH SOMEONE FOR TWENTY-FOUR HOURS, then it is tiring to go on smiling and smiling and smiling. Then the smile tires -- because it is phony. It is just an exercise of the lips. And the lips become tired. How can you go on being sweet? YOUR BITTERNESS WILL SURFACE.

HENCE, BY THE TIME THE HONEYMOON IS OVER, EVERYTHING IS OVER. Both have known each other's reality. Both have known each other's phoniness. Both have known each other's falsity. One is afraid to become intimate. TO BE INTIMATE MEANS YOU WILL HAVE TO PUT ASIDE THE ROLL. And you know who you are -- worthless, just dirt.

Vien

* It's Start from you ! *

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